Eyala: OluTimehin Kukoyi Introduces THS GRLS

Our Afrifem in Action interviews highlight the important initiatives, movements, and content that are created by and for African feminists. In this conversation, we speak to OluTimehin Kukoyi, a queer feminist writer from Nigeria who has recently launched a newsletter with the THS GRLS collective.

Hello Timehin, thank you for speaking with us. Can you briefly introduce yourself?

Hello, thanks for having me! I’m a Yoruba-Itsekiri woman born and raised in Lagos, living in the non-traditional, all-female household of my dreams. Currently, I describe myself as a writer in transition. I spent most of the last decade writing extensively about gender, sexuality and class, with a focus on exposing structural injustice around these issues. Now, I’m taking a bit of a break to reorient myself. This is because I’m learning how to move towards what I want to see, rather than my work being primarily about resistance.

You recently convened a feminist group called THS GRLS. Please tell us more about it. How did this collective come to be?

THS GRLS is the early form of a need I’ve had for a long time, which is to be part of an explicitly queer feminist group based in Nigeria which focuses on education and community. The central idea is to engage with feminist knowledge in an accessible and actionable way, connect intentionally with older feminists and African feminist institutions, and hopefully broaden what it means to be a (young) African feminist beyond saviourism, reactionary politics, or the idea that what men have is what we want.

The name THS GRLS (pronounced Those Girls) comes from a 2018 essay I wrote titled “There They Are, Those Girls.” The essay is specifically about coming into my own as a queer person, but what it means to be one of those girls more broadly is to be someone who belongs entirely to oneself. The way I see it, in order to belong to yourself in a patriarchal society, you have to know yourself and be willing to stand apart from the crowd. You have to be secure in who you are and the people you are in community with. Most importantly, you have to be willing to be transformed such that your example transforms others too.

And what would you say is the mission for THS GRLS?

At THS GRLS, our mission is to build collective power and liberation, without discrimination, for African women and LGBTQ+ people through community, advocacy and solidarity. We spent a lot of time thinking about how to word this mission clearly and simply, and now we’re spending more time thinking about the strategies we will use to bring it to life beyond our Founding Membership. As we slowly shape this initiative, we see ourselves as the first beneficiaries of our work. What this means is that we practice everything we believe to the best of our ability amongst ourselves, giving the care, solidarity and support that we plan to offer our future community to one another now. We do everything with the awareness that we cannot serve an imaginary other in the future without serving the very real people who are part of THS GRLS today.

For those who find our mission resonant and seek to join us, to be one of THS GRLS is to own your power and use it in generative, liberatory ways. It is to accept that because progress is created by building safe and well-resourced communities, no one changes anything alone. It is also committing to deep learning that helps us understand the intersecting systems that we are up against, not simply to resist them, but to subvert and delegitimise their hold over us. THS GRLS is about being ready to create a new reality by starting from the margins, and to cultivate the kind of trust that keeps all people safe not because we are perfect, but because we are committed to such safety.

How does the THS GRLS collective want to create more space for women and gender expansive people to be free? What does freedom for women and gender expansive people look like to you?

Our strategies are still unfolding, even to us. Our first commitment is to be actively and intentionally connected to those who are already succeeding at creating freedom for women and gender-expansive people. We’re in talks with a couple of feminist organisations that we respect, and also identifying queer and other collectives that we can exchange knowledge and resources with. Part of the original dream is also to create guides, toolkits and other tools that people can rely on to create autonomous THS GRLS chapters, as well as to have in-person gatherings that allow people to sharpen their political consciousness and build solidarity through relationships.

I think freedom is born from pre-existing freedom. When people discover new possibilities through the life or work of others, it absolutely makes a difference. I am freer today because I once sat in a circle of queer Black women who lived into their personal freedom, and their stories gave me the key to discover my own self. I have better language to describe my dreams and realities because I spent years reading people like Trudy of Gradient Lair and Oyeronke Oyewumi of CUNY who wrote into their intellectual freedom. I have more space to be myself thanks to women like Bisi Adeleye-Fayemi of AWDF, Nana Darkoa Sekyiamah of Adventures [from the Bedrooms of African Women] and Charmaine Pereira of Feminist Africa who built communities of power and care. My hope is that THS GRLS will, by its example, create such portals into freedom for other people.

To me, freedom for women and gender-expansive people looks like the presence of love, dignity and the resources to live a fulfilling life. It looks like the absence of violence both grave and gratuitous. Mostly, it looks like abundant space to be who we are, as we are.

Can you tell us more about the THS GRLS newsletter and what it’s going to look like?

The THS GRLS newsletter is our first offering. It will focus on bringing accessible and actionable queer feminist knowledge to people who are interested in it. We’re using a newsletter model because THS GRLS isn’t a media company and we’re not looking for interest from the general public. What we want is for people to opt in to the experience; we want to know that even if only five people read us, those five people want to read us.

Our plan for the newsletter is for it to be written by most of our Founding Members and a few guest writers and published on a biweekly basis. We’re taking a low-frequency approach because we want to give our writers time to create good work and our readers time to ruminate on what they receive from us. I’m really excited about the newsletter because I’m both a queer feminist and a nerd, and knowledge always makes me happy.

Let’s talk more about your personal connection with this initiative. How has your work on the newsletter and with THS GRLS impacted you as an African woman and as a feminist?

Well, we’re still very much in our gestation phase, so my answer to this isn’t as robust as it might be in, say, one year. However, I’ve been really affirmed by the fact that people have not only joined, but have stayed part of our Founding Membership simply because they believe in this idea. I sat on it for years because I was thinking of myself as a dreamer rather than a doer, so to find myself slowly becoming a doer is a fantastic experience.

What is one lesson that you have learned during this process that you would like to share with other African feminists?

Choose community first. Everything else will follow.

How can the Eyala community access the newsletter when it comes out? How can we participate in the work of THS GRLS in general?

I’d be thrilled to share our announcement with you! We recently put out the subscription link and we plan to publish in a week or so . There will be plenty of time to subscribe and spread the word before we start writing to our community and engaging with the responses, critiques and other feedback they provide. For now, you can find us on Instagram and Twitter.

Let’s finish with our favourite final question: what is your feminist life motto?

Oh, I don’t actually have one. But if I did, it would be about love, power and the necessity of building freedom by telling the truth to one another.

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